Vinyl Queen – “… but Mistress, I’m not submissive”
By Vinyl Queen | March 10, 2009
I Would Never Visit A Dominatrix For A Spanking
I’ve heard this a lot over the years from guys into spanking. They tell me that they can’t “just get a spanking” from a Pro Domme. I understand their point of view, but wonder how much of the belief is warranted? My background has shown me that those into spanking have only that interest. Sometimes role-play is involved, but the focus is on spanking and the various positions that it can be done. I have also heard from many guys that they don’t want a long session. They are put off by the hour minimum that many independent Pro Dommes have. Then there is the most insurmountable issue that I believe gets in the way: men into spanking aren’t “submissive.”
Let’s face it, there are A LOT of misconceptions about Pro Dommes. I won’t go into all of them, but I WILL address the whole “I’m not submissive” excuse. Look, I know that you’re not a cowering wimp who just wants someone to push you around. I KNOW that you walk through the world with a certain command of your immediate environment. You also don’t consider yourself a slave and probably view the images you see online of men in leather hoods being led around on a leash to be silly. That’s fine. If you can believe it, MOST of my clients are of your mindset—they just know how to get their kinky needs scratched.
If you want to show up for a 30-minute spanking session that doesn’t involve whips and chains, silly fetish clothing, or being referred to as anything than your first name—it CAN be done. The session can be negotiated so that both sides have a good exchange. The key is finding a House of Domination or an independent that understand your NEEDS. It takes some experience in this field to be able to know the difference between the request for a spanking session, a foot fetish session, or full on slave training. Your search might need to include reviews, phone calls and emails, but it CAN be a rewarding situation if you find someone you can click with. Just be honest about what you want and what you do not want (we call those limits), and you can have your backside tanned over the knee to your liking.
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One Response to “Vinyl Queen – “… but Mistress, I’m not submissive””
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March 15th, 2009 at 3:37 pm
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Best Regards