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“If You Enjoy This, Why Should I Have To Pay?”
Tuesday, May 12th, 2009
Some of my sessions are very complicated and involve a lot of equipment, planning, and in communication with my clients. Other encounters are simple and basic. Case in point: foot worship and spanking. The only “problem” with these is when the client starts to hint that compensation is no longer in order. In other words, we are both having a good time so why should I pay?
The rational from these clients is usually something along the lines of -we BOTH seem to derive intense enjoyment from the activity, and it would be so much more convenient to just drop by my house/have me come to his. I mean if there is something mutual going on, then why does money need to get involved?
Here’s why money needs to be involved and ultimately it’s a very good thing: Monetary exchange for an activity maintains boundaries that keep both parties happy in the long run. If all you can do is dwell on the COST, then you shouldn’t be doing the activity—I don’t care what it is. It’s an affordability issue and your budget is the mitigating factor. If you can afford the activity without worry and you don’t like the IDEA of paying, here are some things to consider.
Money keeps things simple. It guarantees that I show up on time, I have a clean, uncluttered location for us to meet, and we stick to the negotiated plan. Yes, I might not FEEL like showing up to our appointment, but I know what the agreement is so I get ready, show up and then am happier for it once things get rolling. Yes, that’s a newsflash to many: no matter how much I enjoy what I do, it’s still my work and there are days I don’t feel like going to work. The difference is that I KNOW I will have a good time once the session begins.
Money makes sure that too much information isn’t shared. I don’t know where you live and you don’t know where I do. You might share some details about your private life, but that’s not mandatory and most people don’t. Money makes it so we form our relationship around an activity that we both enjoy, and we don’t take it further. By having this narrow definition of how we interact, it means that we will continue to have focused enjoyment in the future. Boredom is more difficult if we are always on the cusp of getting to know more about each other, but never do.
Lastly, money also makes the conclusion of our relationship a clean process. Yes, really it does. If you have maintained your boundaries and you just stop seeing me, no harm no foul. You always have the option to return. Of course a less experienced Mistress might get her feelings hurt when a client stops seeing her, but that’s the realm of those who aren’t keeping this to a business mindset—and a whole ‘nother topic for me to write about!
Spank It: Hard Spank for Bad Girls
Friday, May 8th, 2009
Spank It: Hard Spank for Bad Girls by
I found this video exciting to view, as I love watching over the knee spankings, almost as much as I love being over someone’s knee.
During the 65 minutes running time, there are two separate stories.
In the first story, there is a disaster in the kitchen, when this pretty, long haired young lady tries to set fire to the house, while cooking dinner.
Her shrieks of fear alert her partner. He comes into the kitchen – a fit young man, wearing light coloured trousers held up by a thick leather belt and a khaki vest. Across his muscular shoulders and arms he is covered in tattoos. Seeing what’s happening he pushes her aside and puts out the fire, by blowing on it? Who needs the fire brigade? Then, despite her having burnt her hand, he ignores that and proceeds to start a fire in her bottom instead.
So, he puts her over his knee for a l-o-n-g spanking; half an hour to be precise.
Starting off using his hand, he delivers a few swats on top of her shorts he then uses sign language to tell her to remove them. His gesture is particularly sexy. She looks over her shoulder at him, and you can see a slight tremble, as she contemplates her impending punishment.
Once she has removed her own shorts, he yanks her back over his knee, and carries on spanking her with his hand.
He spanks her – from one cheek to the other, interspersing this with stroking, kneading and pinching her bottom. He also every so often, pulls aside her black thong, revealing a good view of her pussy.
Somewhere along the way, he helps her remove her top, she isn’t wearing a bra.
Also, several times during the movie, he lowers his head and bites her bottom. This makes her squeal louder than ever, so I can only assume he bit her hard.
As it is such a small kitchen and he has long arms, he is able to reach out to the draining board and gets various weapons of bottom destruction, in the form of, wooden spoons, spatulas etc and he even does a John Wayne, when he uses a frying pan instead of a shovel, as McLintock did, when spanking Maureen O’Hara in the film of that name.The camera man, several times, moves in close, treating us to some great views of her pain contorted face.
Every so often, he changes position, from spanking her over his knee, to pushing her over the kitchen table to leaning her over the kitchen sink. All these changes in positions and implements used on her bottom are done with no dialogue passing between them. I think that there is a time and a place for silence. It can add a finer point to the discipline than vocal chastising often can. But, in the context of this movie, and the way the scene is played, the silence just comes across as a sort of lack of involvement.
After thirty minutes of this continual ill treatment of her backside, it is a very sore looking rosy red. Pulling her up off his knee, he throws her clothes at her, then, walks out of the kitchen, leaving her kneeling on the floor, rubbing her poor bottom that has a raging fire in it.
It was a big disappointment to me because he didn’t take his belt off to her. I believe the makers of this movie missed something there.
It would have been greatly improved if he had made her watch him slowly taking the belt out of its loops, then putting her back over his knee for a few strokes of it. Phew! The thought of it makes me go all of a quiver.
Another pretty young girl, this time with short auburn hair is in the same kitchen supposedly washing up. Well, she moves things around, attempting to pile up some pans and dishes that defy gravity so that they keep toppling over with a loud clatter.
Then while rummaging in a cupboard, she finds a bottle of wine and sitting at the kitchen table she takes a long swig from the bottle.
In comes another girl, who quickly takes in the scene.
She pushes the young girl over the edge of the table, and starts to spank her. She also uses an assortment of kitchen utensils, including a plastic chopping board.
During this prolonged spanking session of again, around thirty minutes, the young girl’s clothes come off until she is wearing only a very sore red bottom. A very lovely bottom indeed. She’s got gorgeous, smooth curves that seemed designed specifically for the sweeping touch of a hungry palm.
Again, this second spanking is done in silence, except for the obligatory ‘owws’ and ‘ouches’. Not too much thrill or excitement in the scene. I have to say that I’m a huge fan of sincerity. Perhaps this seeming lack of enthusiasm could be chalked up to bad acting, but I sort of get the feeling that the models aren’t really into the lifestyle, but are just paid asses.
I found this lack of dialogue between each of the two couples spoiled things. Apart from each girl being spanked – saying ‘Owwww!!!’ every time her bottom was attacked by the spanker’s hand or kitchen utensil, there was silence, except for the background music – that rather grated on me.
I would also have liked both girls, to have shown some more spirit. A bit of bratting; swearing, struggling etc, although as we know that earns extra spanks, but to me it is more natural.
However, if you enjoy seeing a bare bottom, over the knee spanking, where the bad girl ends up with a very hot sore bottom, then you will enjoy this movie
Clare Fonda Spanking Fantasy
Friday, May 1st, 2009
The kind of woman I think most deserves spanking would have to be the freeloading friend, with “rude waitress” coming in at a close second. I have no problem with a slow or even downright incompetent servers as long as they are polite but it’s the LA babe that gives you the “I’m just waiting tables until I get my sitcom” vibe that I want to strap while she slaves over a grill.. While there is a lot of bad service in Southern California, and they never get a penny over 15% from me, let’s go back to the freeloading friend.
I rarely tell anyone I produce adult content, not that I ashamed at all, but some people think we are all rolling around nekkid in piles of cash. They don’t know there are only so many production companies and a plethora of talent, particularly in Los Angeles.
I would say the average spanking shoot pays between $300-$500 and the models work hard for their check. While there is good money to be made in production, there is only so much for handouts, so next time one of my very pretty actress friends whines for money so she can make her rent, I’ll ask her to earn it.
“I can’t do porn,’ she’ll tell me, “I’m trying to get on soap operas.”
Having had enough of her drama, I’ll offer: “Okay, we can turn the cameras off- just you and me.” Since she’s desperate she just may say yes and this will be a spanking for her own good. One that reminds her that I work hard for my money and so should she. The jeans can stay on for a while but when I have given her the minimal warm up they are coming down, followed by the panties. After all, it’s just us – and by now she’s wishing she just asked her parents like she did last month. “I didn’t know you spanked so hard in your videos,” she’ll say.
Maybe she should have taken the time to go onto a website or two but it’s too late now -out comes the paddle – nothing that big but thick and wooden. Kind of sneaky, actually, though this is a good lesson . “I’m going to give you fifty hard ones with this paddle and then we are even. You don’t need to pretend to be saving up to pay me back and I will get the feeling that I truly helped you, not enabled you. “After the last whack on her very sore and red bottom, probably marked as it is not used to discipline at all, my friend will zip up her jeans and tearfully beg that I keep this between us. I tell her I have already forgotten about it, and judging from the way she is is rubbing the seat of her pants, I got my money’s worth, so no hard feelings, just one long, hard spanking between friends.
This is what a free-loading ass looks like!
Speaking of Spanking 3
Wednesday, April 29th, 2009The Eroticism Inherent in Spanking
By Chelsea Pfeiffer
I often get emails asking me whether whomever they’ve recently observed me spanking got aroused during the spanking. They site physical signs of this arousal, i.e., hard nipples on nude women, or even possibly slight (or not so slight) wetness between the legs and a blushed complexion not only on their behinds. I’ve also been asked what I do about this arousal after the spanking is over and the camera is off.
I do believe that there is an inherent eroticism in the act of spanking to which women (and men, of course) respond, even those who aren’t officially spanking enthusiasts. The spanking itself, because it causes a rush of blood to the behind and, therefore, the genitals, is stimulating, even though it does hurt a bit. The pleasure often outweighs the pain once that rush of blood and the accompanying endorphins hit. Once that happens, of course, visible signs of arousal will occur. Isn’t that lovely? I believe, too, that a lot of the women I’ve spanked who aren’t professed spanking enthusiasts appreciate spanking for other reasons besides the pleasure/pain aspect. They’re exhibitionists and that means they love attention, attention paid especially to areas around their pussies, which they love to show off. I find this most endearing!
Now for the question about what do I do about this arousal after the spanking is over and the camera off? Um, I hate to wreck any fantasies. So, for those of you who would like to think we women then pleasure each other sexually, STOP READING NOW! Hehe.
The truth of the matter is, once I’ve spanked them I write them a nice check and then send them home to their husbands or significant others to be satiated in whatever manner does that best for them. Awww… I know. But, one must maintain a degree of professionalism, even as a spanking movie producer and performer.
She’s coming back…
Thursday, April 23rd, 2009As you’ve noticed, Chelsea hasn’t posted here in almost a month. Sigh.
Even though you’re crest-fallen, pining away, asking yourself in the quiet of your soul, “Where has Chelsea gone”, you can start, this day, nay friends, this very moment to hold your head up; Chelsea’s coming back.
I spoke with her today, and she told me that she has been shooting a lot.
Chelsea, you can take as many breaks from posting as you want, just so long as you continue to warm our blood with your work.
So, relax, or shake with anticipation, whatever you’re still, cause, Chelsea’s on her way back…
Discipline Lessons — Asphyxiation Films
Tuesday, April 21st, 2009
Two incorrigible schoolgirls receive a very unusual punishment. Instead of a single spanking session, they’ve been signed over by their parents to live under the same roof as their head master for next two years. This movie is about the very first day of this new living arrangement. The Head is older man. He’s brusque and rough around the edges. He lectures the girls in a way that invites no input from them in return. He’s not there to “relate” to them as some kind of mentor or role model. He’s just there to discipline them.
The girls look great. They are sisters, Angela and Jessica. They are both blondes, with some help from the bottle. They are both appropriately young-looking. Angela looks insolent and rebellious. She stares sullenly when the Head speaks to her. I can’t wait to see her get spanked. Jessica takes on a more demure and attentive demeanor when he speaks to her. Both young women are attractive in different ways, so there’s good variety in the models. The Head’s job, in his words, is to “train” the girls to be “obedient”. He takes his job seriously. He cares much more about his job than their feelings. He orders them about as if they are the lowest of servants. He begins by making insolent Angela kneel before him. She looks down but he holds her chin up and makes her look him in the eye. He lectures her and slaps her face to make sure she is paying attention. He talks derogatorily about her and makes her reply “yes sir” throughout. He takes the young woman over his knee, hikes her skirt and begins spanking. Her generous ass looks wonderful in white panties. There are also some great shots of her face, her expression reflecting her humiliation. And that’s just the beginning. The Head yanks down her panties and spanks her bare rear end. He continues to lecture her in his condescending way, and continues to make her say “yes sir” to his scolding. The spanking itself isn’t hard. But the humiliation is painful. Next it’s pretty Jessica’s turn to kneel before him and get lectured, slapped and spanked. And of course she must answer with the requisite “yes sir”. “Are you going to please me?” he demands. “Yes sir.” is the obedient reply. Louder! Yes sir. You’re certainly going to do better! Yes sir. I can’t hear you. Yes sir. These girls had a very easy script to learn. They barely say anything but “yes sir” throughout the movie.
The Head’s control is complete. He makes them stand in the corner with their skirts hiked. He makes them kneel. He makes them bend over. He orders their legs apart. He makes them turn and watch the spanking of the other. He makes them turn back around again and face the wall. He makes them say “yes sir” to each of his commands, all of his whims. He does a little session with a slipper on rebellious Angela. It’s not a hard session, but she sniffles and gets teary. He mocks her tears. He brushes her hair from her face to make her humiliation more photogenic for the camera. As a fan of face shots, I appreciate that. The once haughty Angela is now looking very sorry for herself He even tells the girls to “perk your bottom up”, in order to make their rear ends more photogenic (not that they need it), and to make his job easier as he spanks. And of course they obey him. After the slipper session, he makes Angela get completely naked and stand in the corner. Her body is lush, generous and beautiful.
Jessica gets a slipper session next. She suffers through it. Then she is made to strip naked as well. Her breasts are phenomenal. Naked, hands on her head, beautiful breasts on full display, she gets lectured. Then they are both ordered to sit naked on the sofa and face him. Completely nude, they sit obediently for more scolding. They respond with the required yes sir’s. Next they come over his knee for naked spankings. He also makes them parade for him. He makes lewd comments. He even makes Angela stand before him for a pussy spanking while Jessica is over his knee. Then Jessica gets a pussy spanking while he paws her breasts. The movie continues in this vein, with paddling, strapping and caning of the naked, humbled and obedient schoolgirls. They have to count and say “thank you, Sir” or “I’m sorry, Sir”.
None of the punishment is physically severe, although it gets harder as it continues. The bottoms get red and sore, but not bruised or battered. You see some stripes from the cane, but this movie is not about the breaking of wills through physical pain. As far as the infliction of psychological and emotional pain, however, this movie is among the most powerful I’ve seen. It’s a study in discipline and control, not a lesson in dermatological abrasions. The girls are humbled in ways that outstrip a physical beating. They are slapped, insulted, stripped, paraded, groped, mocked, manipulated, humiliated, and ordered about like dogs. And they are made to subserviently reply “yes sir” every step of the way. I’ve seen quite a few “spanked schoolgirl” movies, and this one is definitely a cut above most of them. I highly recommend it.
Discipline Lessons Asphyxiation Films
Clare’s Corner
Tuesday, April 14th, 2009
Top Five I’d like Topping Me.
I’ve been working some more M/f into my shoots recently and you can bet when some handsome male top is on the set it’s “Step aside, Miss 21 year old model. Momma’s here.” I recently came up with some twisted plot that got me some great laptime with James Mitchell on Spanked Call Girls and it got me thinking of a very special to do list:
5.Gale Howard- This is the actor who plays Teri Hatcher’s boyfriend on Desperate Housewives but I was thinking about him spanking me when he starred on Queer as Folk. Although he played a gay man his character was so stuck up, I believed in my heart of hearts that Gale Howard was gay for pay. I would dream about how I would lovingly tease him about being gay (Please stay off my back, G.L.A.D. I adore gay men!) and punish me and prove he wasn’t with a lecherous spanking. I am so glad that this sexy actor is fully recovered from his recent motorcycle accident, got that shoulder all healed up and he can get back to work in my fantasies.
4. Edward Furlong – This is a guilty pleasure I know because Edward self destructed after T2 and deserves a bloody good hiding but if anyone besides me saw Detroit Rock City I absolutely love the scene where he takes off his belt with the huge KISS buckle and beats the guys’ ass while they play Ozzy Osbourne’s rendition of Black Sabbath’s Iron man. Talk about Heavy Metal!
3. Mickey Rourke- Just making it clear this is Mickey in 91/2 Weeks, Angel Heart or even Blue Orchid, not the Mickey of “The Wreslter” I don’t want Randy The Ram anywhere near my ass but I do adore Mickey and the way he treats his dogs! I’d be his bitch.
2. Josh Brolin – looks a little like my boyfriend. He has such sexy voice. I’d want to backtalk a lot so I could hear his voice while he spanked me. This fantasy always ends with Diane Lane, his gorgeous wife, walking in the room and rolling her eyes. I remember her getting a few swats from Olivier Martinez in the movie Unfaithful so I’d probably want her to tell me about that after she bitch slapped me.
1. Guy Pearce – This Austrailian actor has never had the success he deserved, but God -if he would come work for my websites he’d be a big star. Guy is a bit bony these days for my tastes but he looked so hot and healthy as Detective Ed Exley in LA Confidential. Cops in uniforms please leave me alone, but cops in suits, good cops in suits, make me want to get my ass paddled right out of a misdemeanor.
What is it about Bratting?
Monday, March 16th, 2009
What Is It About Bratting?
Well, I only got one comment on my first blog posting, but it was a good one. Strike1 suggested that I write about my favorite shoots, or my favorite spankee. Both excellent suggestions, but topics one must handle carefully, especially when it comes to favorite spankees. I’d hate to hurt anyone’s feelings. So, I’ll get to those topics some other time. Don’t worry, strike1, I took notes and they’re in my blog file!
What I really want to discuss is the topic I mentioned at the end of my first posting, bratting. That would be when someone is a brat, either during, or before, their spanking. One is seldom a brat after their spanking. I might even venture to say one is never a brat after their spanking. I believe I might be one of the better women to blog on that topic, as I’ve been known to be one of the spanking world’s biggest brats, and there are many, believe me. Okay, there’s one woman I can think of who is even more of a brat than I and that would be Erica Scott of Shadow Lane fame. That woman just doesn’t know when to stop her sassing! Anyway, back to the why of it.
Why do I brat? Simply because it’s too much of a blow to my pride to simply sit there and take it. See, there are two kinds of spankees, those who are inherently submissive and those who are brats. Submissives like to go into their “sub-space,” and relax into the experience. Brats just CANNOT do that. It would be too much of a concession to the spanker, like saying, “Okay, you’re completely right and I’m completely wrong.” NOT! See? I just can’t go there!
Now, besides the two kinds of spankees, there are two kinds of brats. My kind of brat gets themselves into a spanking by merely doing whatever they’ve done to earn the spanking because they wanted to do it and proceeded without thought or concern for others. The other kind of brat (the kind that some people, including me, find more annoying than sexy) do things, naughty things, in order to goad their spanker into spanking them. Those things that they do are really, really irritating. Depending on their spanking partner, their attempts might, or might not be successful.
Finally, a good brat (if there can be said to be such a thing) knows just what to say and when. One must be clever, too! It makes the spanker pause and think about how to respond. Oh, and it wins the spankee some harder spanks, as well. It goes something like this, just as your spanker thinks he/she finally has the upper hand, you spout out a true zinger, like, “When’s the spanking going to start. I thought you said you were going to spank me, not bore me!”
Not matter what kind of brat you are there’s one little thing I should mention. If you’re going to brat while being spanked, you’d best be able to take a hard spanking! If you’re going to try to brat your way into a spanking, you’d better be able to take a REALLY hard spanking!!
Me bratting Clare Fonda in my movie Soccer Moms Spank Off, notice I look happy and Clare not so much.
Clare getting me good for bratting in the Soccer Moms movie. Notice now she's looking happy and me not so much.
Vinyl Queen – “… but Mistress, I’m not submissive”
Tuesday, March 10th, 2009
I Would Never Visit A Dominatrix For A Spanking
I’ve heard this a lot over the years from guys into spanking. They tell me that they can’t “just get a spanking” from a Pro Domme. I understand their point of view, but wonder how much of the belief is warranted? My background has shown me that those into spanking have only that interest. Sometimes role-play is involved, but the focus is on spanking and the various positions that it can be done. I have also heard from many guys that they don’t want a long session. They are put off by the hour minimum that many independent Pro Dommes have. Then there is the most insurmountable issue that I believe gets in the way: men into spanking aren’t “submissive.”
Let’s face it, there are A LOT of misconceptions about Pro Dommes. I won’t go into all of them, but I WILL address the whole “I’m not submissive” excuse. Look, I know that you’re not a cowering wimp who just wants someone to push you around. I KNOW that you walk through the world with a certain command of your immediate environment. You also don’t consider yourself a slave and probably view the images you see online of men in leather hoods being led around on a leash to be silly. That’s fine. If you can believe it, MOST of my clients are of your mindset—they just know how to get their kinky needs scratched.
If you want to show up for a 30-minute spanking session that doesn’t involve whips and chains, silly fetish clothing, or being referred to as anything than your first name—it CAN be done. The session can be negotiated so that both sides have a good exchange. The key is finding a House of Domination or an independent that understand your NEEDS. It takes some experience in this field to be able to know the difference between the request for a spanking session, a foot fetish session, or full on slave training. Your search might need to include reviews, phone calls and emails, but it CAN be a rewarding situation if you find someone you can click with. Just be honest about what you want and what you do not want (we call those limits), and you can have your backside tanned over the knee to your liking.
Vinyl Queen – In session!…almost
Thursday, March 5th, 2009 Spanking.com is very happy to announce that pro-domina Vinyl Queen will be contributing a bi-weekly column to our site.
VQ is a highly skilled, highly experienced Lifestyle Mistress based out of San Francisco. She’s been in the business for a decade, so she’s going to bring a lot of insight to our blog here.
Here first contribution will be posted tomorrow, but if you can’t wait to get a taste of her whip, take a look at some of her delicious videos.