Improving Techniques

Review for

Improving Techniques

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by

Eleanor Powell

Starring Linda and Mr Harris

(Running Time of the Movie 11mins)

From Girls’ Boarding School Studio

Mr Harris is a new teacher at the Girls Boarding School. The headmaster summons him to his study for a discussion. Mr. Harris is new, so there are some allowances that can be made in regard to his performance. But, there can be no allowances when it comes to a teacher’s ability to discipline a student. Mr. Harris is told that in order to thrive at the boarding school, in fact, in order to keep his job, he will need to make many improvements to his disciplining techniques, mainly, his approach to spanking.

In the headmaster's study

He leaves the headmaster’s study with a video camera, he is instructed to set it up so that it can record exactly how he tackles punishing one of the school’s naughtiest students, Linda.

Back at his study, Mr Harris sets up the camera and lays out various implements in the order that he’s going to use them on Linda.

He then calls her into his study. She is a very pretty girl with long blond hair. She’s wearing a white school blouse and navy skirt. For some reason, I know not what? She’s not wearing any shoes, but blue ankle socks. She could of course, have a reputation for kicking out while being punished. One or two of my spankers have removed my shoes before starting to spank me – in order to protect their manhood.

He tells her to bend over the desk. There is a very solid looking chair to the left of where Linda is bending over the desk. If he had moved the chair, I think he’d have had a better swing of his arm.

He starts off by using the carpet beater on top of her skirt. He gives her eight strokes. Then he lifts her skirt to reveal pristine white knickers, he delivers another three strokes on her knickered bottom.

Setting aside the carpet beater, he next picks up the birch and gives her 12 strokes with that, still on top of her knickers.

In readiness for the cane, he pulls down her knickers to her knees and canes her on her bare bottom.

A bare bottom for caning

By this time, it is very red and sore looking. Linda is fighting back the tears and squealing and whimpering.

But Mr Harris has to prove to the headmaster that he can give the students an adequate spanking, so, he carries on relentlessly. Picking up the paddle, he gives her eleven firm strokes with it. Finally, he was left with the strap/tawse. He brought it down on her upturned bottom – a total of thirty seven times. This causes her to wriggle about so much, her knickers slip down her legs to her ankles.

On display a well spanked bottom

Linda is told to go and stand facing the wall. She has to hold her skirt up to show off her bright red bottom.

Mr Harris proved that he was able to improve his technique.

There was no dialogue between them, except when he called her into his study and told her to bend over the desk. As for Linda, she says not a word. No backchat, swearing or pleading for mercy.
I enjoyed the movie, but I would have liked it better if he’d started off with a bottom warming session otk.

How Bill Helped Sandra Improve Her Work

How Bill Helped Sandra Improve Her Work

PART SEVEN

The story so far:


The six strong firemen had joined Bill in a game of Pass the Brat. Each man in turn spanked Sandra three spanks on each bottom cheek, then passed her on to the next knee.

When all seven men had had their turn and Sandra was back over Bill’s knee, the game was meant to start again, but Bill could not resist the temptation of caressing Sandra’s very sore and red hot bottom. His hand wandered hither and thither over her blushing cheeks – his finger travelled down the crack between her bottom cheeks and had just slipped inside her hot and very wet pussy, and was playing with her clit …

The door burst open and the caretaker came in, demanding he have his turn. Before sitting down he removed his belt in readiness to give Sandra’s bottom a taste of his belt.

Bill whispered to Sandra asking her did she want him to spank her.

Read on ……

There was something about the caretaker that scared Sandra, so she shook her head, ‘No, I don’t want him to spank me.’

‘Come on, what’s the delay?’ the caretaker asked impatiently.

‘Sorry mate, the lady doesn’t want you to spank her,’ Bill said.

‘It don’t matter what she wants,’ he blustered. ‘It’s what I want that counts.’

The chief fireman had been listening to this exchange between the two men, then, he spoke up. ‘You’d better leave mister, it’s obvious your presence is not wanted here.’

‘If it wasn’t for me, you guys wouldn’t have been here in the first place,’ he said.
‘Just what are you saying?’ asked the chief fireman.

‘I called you guys, because he threatened to get me fired,’ he said gleefully.

‘Mister, you’re in real trouble,’ said the chief fireman. ‘Calling out the fire brigade on a false alarm can mean a heavy fine or even imprisonment.’

‘But – but … ‘ stuttered the caretaker.

‘Save it mister, leave now and no more will be said about it.’

‘Okay, okay, I’m going.’ He stood up; replacing his belt he left the office.

‘Thank goodness he’s gone,’ said Sandra. ‘Who’s for a game of Pass the Brat?’

Seven pairs of hands reached out for her.

Is that the end of the story of ‘How Bill Helped Sandra Improve Her Work?’

No way. You’ll just have to come back and see what else they get up to when ‘Sandra and Bill Join a Spanking Site.’

Adelle’s Lesson

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Review for

Adelle’s Lesson

by

Eleanor Powell

Starring Adelle

(Running Time of the Movie 25.01 mins)

From Red Crescendo Studios

Adelle is 28 years old, and she has been extremely cruel to young men who really fancied her. She was a tease and would lead the guy on, until he had a hardon that threatened to burst out of his trousers – then she would peck him on the cheek, say good night and go in the house.

Now, she is about to learn a very painful lesson.

First she is put otk for a hand spanking. She is naked except for a pair of striped briefs.


The spanker hand spanks her on top of her knickers. Then after a half dozen spanks, her knickers are pulled down to mid thigh.

The camera moves in to show her face as the spanking progresses. She often bites her lip, which to me is a sure indication that she is feeling the spanking.

He Uses Various Paddles and a Cane The spanker then goes on to using various paddles and a leather tawse.

I liked the way the camera split up the screen. Eg while showing a view of her bottom as the main screen – inset would be a view of her face and vice versa.

Her bottom is very red and blotchy and it gets even redder and sorer looking after she is chained up for the cane.

At the end of the movie, she has learned her lesson – that is to be respectful to her lovers – unless they want to be teased.

Spring Spank — Powershotz Productionz

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You’ve seen her before, many times. You bought paper towels and pasta sauce from her at Walmart. Or maybe she took your order at the burger place. Maybe you walked past her at the mall. You noticed her, but you didn’t stop and stare. She’s not drop-dead gorgeous. She’s pretty, but there are lots of pretty girls at the mall.

One time you watched her. The customers were three deep at the mini mart. There were no tabloid headlines to read nearby, and you had to wait. You watched her ring ring up the cstomers because there was nothing else to occupy you at the moment, and because you somehow believe that if you watch a store clerk she’ll move faster.

You saw the brown hair that fell across her freckled face as she looked down at the register. You saw her slim hands and forearms. You noted the apple-firm breasts pushing against her shirt. You wondered if she has a nice butt. You wondered how old she is. Maybe twenty? You wondered idly if she might like to be spanked? What would she sound like? How would she look naked? You’re not going to make a move — you’re just filling up the time until you can pay for your gas and head out.

Only now you know what she’s into, because you’re seeing her in this video called Spring Spank on spanking.com. She wants to be spanked. Or she thinks she wants to. Or she thinks it’ll be cool. Or she just lost that job at the mini mart, and she really needs the money. And she thought this wouldn’t be so bad.

It turns out to be pretty bad. For her, not you. There’s this guy wearing a black ski mask, and he’s being really mean to her. And she looks cute, better than you remember. You didn’t realize she has such a nice body. She’s wearing skin-tight white pants and a midriff-baring halter top.

The masked guy shakes her and slaps her. He pulls her hair. He ties her to a pole in this big art studio-looking place. He paws at her halter top. She’s at his mercy.

He bullies her. He manhandles her. He holds her hands behind her back. He taunts her, asking if she likes what he’s doing to her. He orders her to look at him. He makes her kneel. He makes her call him master. He threatens her with additional violence.

She looks forlorn. More than that — she looks scared. She’s not happy. It’s a movie — we know it’s not happening against her will. But she looks as if it is. I suspect she’s getting more than she bargained for.

Masked dude ties her in various positions. He uses ropes. He uses gags. He uses duct tape. He’s rough and mean the whole time. This is not one of those movies where tied-up people are worshiped or pleasured. There’s no mutual respect here. It’s also not one of those movies where tied-up people get off on being tied-up. She’s begging and pleading to be let go, and while you know it’s a movie, you get the impression she means it.

She gets spanked. She gets paddled. She loses her clothes. One thing I never saw before — he makes her braid her hair. Seriously. She sits on the floor and does her hair. It’s oddly sexy, in the sense that it shows his utter control. And it keeps the hair out her face for the rest of the movie, which I appreciate.

He ties her to a table. He ties her to a chair. He forces her down on the floor. This is a movie about a young, pretty girl who is tied-up, stripped, spanked, slapped, taunted and humiliated by a masked, sadistic, bullying predator. Some people are turned on by watching that kind of perverted, sexual violence (and I have to admit to being one of them). It’s a 2 hour movie, and I didn’t watch every minute of it, but I watched a lot of it, and I enjoyed what I saw.

The movie has no story to speak of, yet it’s oddly familiar. There must be hundreds of mainstream, non-pornographic movies that have violent, perverted psychotic types who menace the attractive young heroine. In those movies, the heroine frees herself or gets rescued by someone else. In this version, though, the cavalry never arrives. The sociopath has his sadistic way with the helpless beauty for the entire two hours.

At the end, the movie has previews of some of the company’s other releases. They look similar, which is to say that they look pretty good. I plan to watch the other available videos from Powershotz, and I hope they put more of their productions on this site.

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How Bill Helped Sandra Improve Her Work – Part Six

How Bill Helped Sandra Improve Her Work

PART SIX

The story so far:

Six big strong firemen came to rescue Bill and Sandra. But, when they smashed down the office door, they found the only fire that was blazing was in Sandra’s red hot bottom.

The chief fireman asked Bill to reignite the fire in her bottom again, as it was already going out. Bill was quick to oblige and Sandra was not too unhappy either.

Then, the chief fireman, very turned on by watching the spanking, asked Bill could he and his crew join in with spanking Sandra.

Well, Bill had to think about this …

Read on ……

Five seconds later, Bill having given the chief fireman’s request some serious thought, agreed, providing Sandra was happy with the idea.

Sandra in her turn and not wanting to appear too eager also gave the subject a great deal of consideration. She had difficulty thinking straight as she was still dangling over Bill’s knee. However, with an almighty effort of concentration, she managed to nod her head – so vigorously, if she had had a screw loose, it might have come off.

It was decided to play ‘Pass the Brat.’

The six firemen and Bill sat on straight backed chairs in a circle.

Bill, because it was his idea, started the game. He had Sandra over his knee. Her skirt was still stuck at mid thigh, so he tugged it back down again and off. He raised his strong right arm and brought his big hard hand down on Sandra’s right bottom cheek, this was followed by a spank to her left bottom cheek. After he had delivered three spanks to each of her hot red cheeks, he helped her to her feet.

Sandra shuffled a couple of steps to Bill’s left, where the chief fireman was sitting impatiently waiting for his turn to spank her. He then stretched out his long, strong arm and put Sandra over his knee. She gave a deep sigh of happiness and settled down to enjoy every moment of this once in a lifetime opportunity.

The chief fireman jiggled her about over his knee, until he felt happy with her position he then gave her six hard spanks just as Bill had done, three on each bottom cheek.

She was then passed to the next fireman, who was so keen to have her over his knee; he had unzipped his trousers and was busy wanking his ginormous cock.

So, Sandra the brat was passed from fireman to fireman.

She had gone full circle and was back with Bill. He had her over his knee again. The idea was that he would spank her again, yet, he was in no hurry to restart the spanking. He sat admiring the cherry red bottom draped over his knee. His right hand started to slowly caress her hot cheeks. His wandering hand and index finger were playing havoc with her modesty. When Bill moved his finger down the crack between her bottom cheeks and dipped it into her hot pulsing pussy, she involuntarily opened her legs, so giving him easier access to her very wet interior. This also gave the fireman to his right, full view of her sopping wet pussy.

Bill began to play with her throbbing clit.

Suddenly, the office door burst open.

The caretaker stood in the doorway. He let his eyes wander round the room – taking in the scene.

‘Right, you guys. It’s my turn I want to use my belt on that sassy little bottom.’

He pulled up another chair and positioned it to Bill’s left.

Before he sat down, he slowly pulled his belt out of its loops. Then, wrapping the belt around his right hand he left about twelve inches trailing.

Looking at Bill he said, ‘Come on man hand her over.’

Bill bent his head and whispered to Sandra, ‘Do you want him to spank you?’

Has Sandra had enough or does she still want more?

To be continued …

Judicial Punishments – the ultimate endorphin rush

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I have been asked many times why I sign myself up time and again for the “Judicial” punishment, and the truth is I had never really thought about it in great detail. Until now. It seems counter-intuitive for a human, one of all the animal races on this planet, ruled by the will to survive to push oneself emotionally and physically to the limit: yet since human-kind have been doing this since the beginning of time so we folk who take part in these events are no different from any other human on Earth. So why do it? I guess I have two famous answers for that; because I can and because I want to!

There is nothing that instils more fear within me than the unknown, so the best form of CP for me on a psychological level is with an implement that I have either never felt before or that which I really don’t enjoy at the time, both giving me an excitement and fear as I wonder to myself for the weeks leading up to the day itself “Will I do it? Will I make it though the punishment?” And, despite my fear every time, most notably at the last event, where we were to meet the Canadian prison strap and the wooden paddle, I make it and win the award for doing so: elation and a “high” as the endorphins rush through me!

I imagine we all have various methods for preparing for a Judicial, both in the days preceding the moment itself and on the day itself, so all I can really tell you is how I do it. For me, the most important piece of preparation is mental preparation within the final hour, as I call it. Some girls seem to nervously crack jokes, others are quiet. I am one of the quiet ones (yes it does happen sometimes people!), someone who prefers to sit quietly and meditate. It relaxes me down and focuses my mind (which has a habit of flitting between subjects at the best of times!) on what is going to happen to me and what I will do with the energy (or pain, if you like!) once the punishment commences.

At the last event (held in late October of last year), where we were going to receive the Canadian prison strap and the wooden paddle, the the other girls all elected to not find out where they were in the line-up. I was the only one who needed to know. I felt almost ashamed of myself on the day for not being able to face that unknown, but there is only so much control even a submissive like me can relinquish! So, knowing where I was to be I changed and sat, meditating and waiting for my turn. Now believe me, here is why time stretches before you, and the moment for the Punisher to begin to begin never seemed to happen, but yes! Finally even through my meditative state I heard he begin and heard  the first girl called out to be dealt with. I should have felt relief that it was not me, however I am someone who cannot bear to hear another person in pain even if I know they enjoy it and want it to happen, so in many ways, listening to the “prisoners” before me was even more torture than the event itself, strange am I not?

Review for Cafe’ OTK

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Review for CAFE’ OTK
by

Eleanor Powell

Starring Café’

(Running Time of the Movie 21.50 mins)

From Red Crescendo Studios

The movie starts off with Café sitting in a high backed tapestry covered chair, with a backdrop of what looks like chains – she is twisting her raven black hair around her finger, while she tell us how she received her first erotic spanking when she was eighteen.

Now, she is twenty-four and about to get another one.

Where has she been all her life? From eighteen to twenty-four, is six years and for dedicated spankos, six days seem to be a lifetime. But what do I know?

The movie seemed to lack structure and imagination.

There was no apparent reason for her being spanked. No role playing.

Yet, there was plenty of OTK, with numerous shots of her face, showing the agony and the ecstasy, then, the camera would swing about showing her shapely bottom, turning a deeper shade of red as the spanking progressed.

Cafe' Receiving a Sensuous Spanking

The spanker – a male in a dark t-shirt; going incognito as he never allowed his identity to be revealed, but, because he had a deep sexy voice, I’ll forgive him anything.

She clambers over his knee of her own free will. Personally, I prefer the spankee to put up at least a token fight. A struggle; a protest; a squeal of indignation, would have made it more believable for the spanking enthusiast.

Also, Café is stark naked. How she got into that state is not explained. She just was stark naked.

She is over his knee one minute, being spanked with his hand and a paddle; then she is bending over a bench being caned and we do not know how she got there. If she had put up a bit of a struggle it would have improved the whole experience for the viewer.

However, the entire spanking was erotic and sensuous, which was its redeeming feature. A couple of spanks with his hand or paddle or even with the cane, and he would then be caressing and kneading her beautiful reddening bottom, interspersing the caressing with playing with her clit. Her tits seemed to drape themselves over his knee, while her stiffened nipples were definite proof that she was being well and truly turned on by his caresses.

Getting a Taste of the Paddle

The spanker came across as a very caring person; he kept asking her if she was all right. I liked that.

Therefore, the spanking was meant to turn Café on, while at the same time – turn the viewer on too and it did.

A Strictly Private Investigation — Strictly English

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Amanda Devlin is an attractive woman in perhaps her mid-30′s. She has an expressive, pretty face and shoulder length brown hair. And she’s stacked.

But Amanda’s been having some problems lately. Her husband’s left, and her financial situation is problematic. She was in a car accident and the insurance company paid for the damage. But she didn’t exactly spend the insurance money on the damage. The repair shop told her the car had other problems, and the money went to fix them.

She doesn’t think she’s done anything wrong, until she gets a visit from Chris Sutton, insurance investigator extraordinnaire. She signed paperwork accepting money for work that was never done. Apparently she’s committed insurance fraud, and she’s in big trouble.

Poor Amanda is weary. She doesn’t need any more problems. She’s practical, sensible and broke. She knows she needs to work something out. In very matter of fact way she offers the investigator sexual favors to make the issue go away. He acts offended by this, but the counter-offer he proposes is no more ethical. In the end they agree that she’ll come to his house for a day of spanking and house cleaning, and he won’t report her for insurance fraud.

Amanda shows up smartly dressed in a black jacket and skirt, as if she were going for a job interview. She looks professional and sexy. It’s a nice touch. Unfortunately, she also arrives to Sutton’s house late.

He starts off with a lecture. Then he orders her to put out her hand. He straps it as if she were a tardy schoolgirl. He even says “now you’ll learn what happens to naughty girls”. She has to hold out the other hand as well.

She complains that hand-strapping wasn’t part of the deal. But the truth hits her, and it shows in her face as she accepts the punishment. The truth is that she really doesn’t have any choice. Reluctantly, she does as she’s told. A tiny bit of the dignity that she’s acquired during her 30+ years of living seems to vanish with each stroke. And this is only the beginning of her day.

Ms. Devlin is a wonderful actress. Her wearily-expressive visage, her reluctant acquiescence, her slow descent into ever-more humiliating obedience — these elements are handled so well by her that they make this spanking video worthy of being called a spanking film. If there were Oscars for spanking movies, she would be nominated.

Each scene that follows is another wound to Ms. Devlin’s ebbing pride. When she is spanked over the knee, you can sense her mortification that she, a grown woman, should be subjected to such an indignity.

Mr. Sutton seems to relish her embarrassment. He hikes up her skirt, exposing her white panties. He pulls her panties into a thong, exposing her beautiful rear end. He spanks her hard. She gasps. She murmurs “please”. She complains that it hurts. She asks if there’s another way to work this out. Again she seems to be hinting at sexual gratification. He merely orders her not to wriggle and continues with the spanking.

They change positions. He makes her bend over the sofa, and he spanks her some more. She says she’s sorry. She promises not to do it again. “I’ll make damn sure,” he replies.

He lets her up. She adjusts her skirt correctly. He makes her hike it back up. She complains that he’s humiliating her. Again, that seems to part of his goal.

She has to vacuum the room with her skirt hiked up. Then she has to dust. During the dusting, she finds a cane by the mantelpiece.

Sutton decides she’s not working quickly enough, and he threatens to use the cane on her. She begs him not to, but you don’t have to be psychic to guess how that will turn out. Her reactions to the cane strokes are wonderfully vocal. Her body dances deliciously with each blow.

He also spanks her in the diaper position. He pulls down her undies. She gets very upset. Her embarrassment is palpable. For the viewer, it’s a treat. Eventually he lets her up and straps her. She yelps in pain, her sore bottom redder and redder.

Part of the punishment is humiliation. He tells her so explicitly, as if she (and we) couldn’t have guessed. He makes her take off her top and her skirt. She’s in her bra and panties. She has to fold her clothes carefully and place them down neatly. She has to parade for him. She gets spanked some more, in various positions, including the diaper position again. She gets more strapping and caning as well.

I lost track of the amount of times she offered sexual favors to him, and the amount of times he used it as a pretext for additional punishment. But there is something distinctly sexual about this relationship. She presents herself as a damsel in distress, a sort of spankable Blanche DuBois who appeals to the kindness (or at least sexual willingness) of strangers.

He pretends to be too moral to accept sexual favors. But this isn’t only about insurance fraud and discipline. He undresses her. He makes her parade for him. He manipulates her into different positions. He takes breaks, during which she cleans, and then he comes back for more. The activity certainly shares many aspects with a session of prolonged, passionate sex, with the usual and necessary breaks in between. And as much as Amanda protests the spankings, her appeals for sex instead seem heartfelt, as if the circumstances are putting her in the mood.

At the end of the video, he tells her to report to him again next week. She agrees to, even though two sessions weren’t part of the original agreement. When finally dismissed, Amanda doesn’t rush away like a bat out of hell. Instead, there’s something slow and poignant, almost reluctant, about the way these two people part. I sure don’t want to see them separate. I’m not sure they do, either. Interesting.

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Not Quite A Domme — Red Crescendo

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This movie provides a glimpse into the lives of two people who are living “the lifestyle”.

bdsm switchAt the beginning there’s is a short interview with Don (at least I think that’s his name.) He’s a tall, slender young man with earrings and close-cropped hair, and he explains a bit about himself and how he got into the BDSM scene. He talks about discovering himself as a submissive when he met a “wonderful mistress”. But as we soon learn, he’s not a complete submissive. He likes to go both ways, he’s a BDSM switch

The next segment starts with a “Honey, I’m home” moment. Don walks through the door to his house/apartment. Angelica, an attractive, full-figured blonde, is waiting for him. She’s wearing “mistress” type clothing (a dark vinyl bustier with her breasts exposed), and she’s fiddling energetically with a paddle.

She tells Don that she’s bored and she wants to “play”. She orders him to strip. He does so, playing along. Angela gives precise, pointed commands about how he should remove his clothing. “Yes, Mistress” Don responds.

The “play” continues. Don is soon completely nude, blindfolded, and with a gag in his mouth. He’s led to spiderweb-looking contraption that’s made of thick metal chains. Very interesting home decor. He gets chained to it, hands and feet.

bdsm role playAt some point the “play” takes on a different tone. Don loses the “yes mistress” attitude and lets some four letter words come out with regard to his feelings for Angelica. These two people have a history that we, the viewer, can only guess at. Various things and people from their past are alluded to in an accusatory fashion. Angelica spanks and paddles the chained and naked Don, who mutters things like “I’ll f____ you up” through his gag.

Angelica releases him because he “can’t handle it”. Don then decides to see how she can handle it. He wrestles her down to a red vinyl couch and starts spanking her. The verbal venom between the couple continues. Don appears to see himself as the teacher in this relationship, and Angelica is his not-so-apt student who must learn her lessons the hard way.

Don now has the upper hand. He has forced Angelica face down on the sofa with her butt sticking out. He paddles her with a wooden spoon. Her rear end becomes bruised. She’s very vocal, but I think involuntarily so. She seems to be trying to fight the pain, trying to hold back her gasps and her tears. She can’t.

Don makes her say that she’s “his property”. He makes her repeat it louder. He makes her say she enjoys it. She does so through clenched teeth and through the sobs that she can’t hold back.

He taunts her about her tears. He calls her “poor little baby”. He lectures her about her inability to fully embrace the lifestyle that they’ve chosen together. Apparently she’s supposed to accept the pain without crying.

The interpersonal dynamic in this movie is raw and real. It’s like watching a passionate fight and a passionate love session at the same time. It’s not always easy to tell where one begins and the other ends.

Angelica seems to have a very ambivalent feeling to the pain she endures. She wants to live “the lifestyle”, but not all aspects of it, or perhaps not to the extent that Don wants her to. Or maybe she wants it and she’s really enjoying herself though her tears. Don seems to think so anyway.

He gives orders and lectures her as he strikes her. She complies. He raises his voice a lot. He’s as emotional as she is, maybe more so. This may be a movie to me, but it seems completely real to them.

I recommend watching this movie. Part of my enjoyment was that I found it erotic to see the tables turned on Angelica and watch her transformation from a dominant, commanding mistress into a tearful, obedient sub. But it’s also an interesting, almost educational video. It’s like a mini-documentary about both domestic difficulties and the “sociological phenomenon” of the BDSM “lifestyle”. As this movie makes clear, however, BDSM is not a “sociological phenomenon” or a “lifestyle”. It’s the very real expression of the passionate and emotional needs of people who are no different than anyone else, people who are struggling to find themselves and to find happiness in their lives and their relationships. And just like with everyone else, they deal with jealousy, miscommunication, and failed expectations along the way.